The things that will never make it in the baby books and other musings from a stay at home mom

Thursday, May 11, 2006

Requiem for an old friend, gone too soon (ALTERNATE TITLE: A fool and her money are soon parted)

I have love, love, loved our video monitor since Day One.

As unnecessary and indulgent as I've always recognized this $100 piece of surveillance equipment to be, there's been a new reason to adore it with each developmental stage. When my kids were infants, I could glance at the monitor and confirm that they hadn't accidentally face planted into a big fat pocket of crib bumper that threatened to asphyxiate them. When they hit the "I can roll over, but I can't get back" stage and then the "I can stand up but I have no idea what to do next" stage, a quick peek at the monitor would tell me whether I needed to mount a rescue operation or could just simply the child whimper until he or she fell back asleep. When my kids got older, the monitor told me who was playing quietly in bed, who was trying to escape and who had already left the nest.

Beyond the practical, the video monitor has also given me ample opportunity to do that "isn't my sleeping child sweet?" gazing thing without risking waking said child with my presence in the room (it's amazing how fast the "sweet" part disappears when a sleeping child is awakened). Friends and family love to watch it as well, especially now that Evan has figured out how it works and identified the once place in his crib where he can lie sight unseen. "Oh my God, Evan's not in his crib," someone always exclaims while those of us in the know sit and laugh.

Alas, the screen on our monitor abruptly went dark a few months ago. I was heartbroken, knowing that my kids were simply too old to justify purchasing a new one, but a friend who owned a monitor that she was no longer using graciously loaned me hers. And today, it died, too. (If Allison ever comes along, I promise to buy you a new one, Chichimama!)

I suspect that someone is trying to tell me something about the suitability of spying on a 2 year old. It was probably time to retire the old girl and move on to a cheap audio monitor anyway. Hell, it's probably even time to move the audio monitor out of Julia's room; listening in on our 4 year old is no doubt an invasion of privacy as well. But I was counting on the video monitor to aid in Evan's transition to his Big Boy Bed! I had big plans to use it in our basement playroom after it outgrew its bedroom usefulness! I'm not ready to say goodbye just yet! How dare my favorite piece of child care equipment betray me like this?

Someone please talk me out of buying a new one.


At 3:47 PM, Blogger Kristy said...

Hmmm. You must understand, this is a comment coming from someone who ditched their audio monitor well before the first year of life for the first child, and well before the first half year of life for the second child. You will not get any sort of convincing argument FOR said purchase. You might, though, get a rather convincing argument for your, ahem, insanity...


At 4:21 PM, Blogger Jennifer said...

I am with Kristy on this one. ;) I learned pretty quickly that if my kid needed me I would be able to hear him. All the rolling around and grunting kept me awake. :)

At 4:52 PM, Blogger Jennifer said...

I'm with Kristy and Jennifer (great Jennifers think alike) in my inability to talk you into a new one. My babies were always in our bed/bedroom for the first 4-5-6 months and after that, I figured if the weren't fussying loudly enough for me to hear them, they didn't REALLY need me anyway - I ditched it early on with #1 and never got one at all for #s 2 or 3. Hee!

At 5:16 PM, Blogger Steph said...

I loved mine, too. Our first one died a little over two years into its use. With J's impending arrival, we decided to buy a new one, this time with two for each kid's room. However, this one never really worked right. We gave up the audio monitor in M's room around J's arrival, and only use J's audio monitor now for naptime and before we go to bed. I'm with Jennifer, in the thinking that if they really need me, they'll be loud enough that I'll hear them without it.

At 10:40 PM, Anonymous Gretchen said...

Well, we crunchy hippie freaks don't need baby monitors, since our babies clutter up our beds; but I was picturing what sorts of dastardly feats the kids could get up to, someday, if they reversed the video and/or audio monitors on y'all; if they could listen and look in on Mommy and Daddy in their bedroom, instead of vice versa. Paybacks can be hell, you know!

At 12:11 AM, Blogger Heather said...

Ok I had to chime in since I seem to be the only one in your boat....although we never used the video camera, I still love my monitors, you know just in case! I vote buy a new one :D

At 1:41 AM, Anonymous chelle said...

Ooo how I pined for the video monitor however somehow I failed to convince my husband!

We still have our monitor even though our toddler sleeps in a big bed and comes to see us in the is a security blanket for us...some day we will have to let it go!

I would say to try to hold off...but I am setting no example.


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